Tuesday, November 8, 2011



“Of course my jokes are in poor taste, inappropriate, and confused; they reveal my lack of security. But that is because I have no respect for myself.”

― Fyodor Dostoevsky, Notes from Underground


Thursday, November 3, 2011



"Are you familiar with the work of Dr. Peter Mark Roget? He understood that to dump sewage into the river you drink from is to no one's advantage. He would be very happy if you opened up his thesaurus and quit saying 'fuck.'"

- From Cruddy by Lynda Barry


Tuesday, November 1, 2011

I think I will make this at the flatwarming.

Just to see if I survive.

Classic Champagne Punch

Ingredients

1 1/3 cups of Fresh Lemon Juice
1 cup of Vodka
1/2 cup of Orange Liqueur
1/2 cup of Triple Sec1/2 cup of Cognac
1/2 cup of Fresh Orange Juice
2 bottles of Champagne

Mixing Instructions
Combine the lemon juice, sugar, orange liqueur, Triple Sec, cognac, and orange juice in a non-reactive bowl and stir until the sugar is completely dissolved. Add the Champagne and stir to combine. Cover and refrigerate until chilled, about 1 hour. Pour into a decorative bowl or pitcher. Garnish with orange or lemon slices and fresh strawberries, if desired. Serve in Champagne flutes, wine glasses, or punch cups.

How to decode someone with an anxiety disorder.

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Things we can’t help but do all the time:

  1. second-guess ourselves
  2. behave impulsively and reactively
  3. worry
  4. have difficulty accepting compliments
  5. have difficulty reciprocating friendly gestures
  6. have difficulty finding the courage to respond
  7. have difficulty not being suspicious of others’ intentions

things you should keep in mind:

  1. we’re scared of everything
  2. pretty much all of the time
  3. it’s an actual disorder
  4. it manifests as impulsive behavior
  5. you can’t fix us with words
  6. also, we wear a lot of armor
  7. cold, heavy, affection-proof armor with spikes
  8. we constructed this armor as children
  9. we’re fairly certain you will never be able to pry it apart
  10. but there is a nice person under there, we promise

things you can do for a friend with an anxiety disorder:

  1. stick around
  2. ask them if they’re comfortable in a place or situation
  3. be willing to change the place or situation if not
  4. activities that help them take their mind off of things are good!
  5. talk to them even when they might not talk back
  6. try not to take their reactions (or lack thereof) personally
  7. give them time to respond to you
  8. they will obsess over how they are being interpreted
  9. they will anticipate being judged

things you shouldn’t do:

  1. tell us not to worry
  2. tell us we’ll be fine
  3. mistake praise for comfort
  4. ask us if we are “getting help”
  5. force us to be social
  6. force us to do things that trigger us
  7. “face your fears” doesn’t always work
  8. it would be more accurate to say we are scared of the fear itself

emergency action procedure for panic attacks:

  1. be calm
  2. be patient
  3. don’t be condescending
  4. remind us that we’re not “crazy”
  5. sit with us
  6. ask us to tighten and relax our muscles one by one
  7. remind us that we are breathing
  8. engage us in a discussion (if we can talk, then we can breathe)
  9. if we are having trouble breathing, try getting us to exhale slowly
  10. or breathe through our nose
  11. or have us put our hands on our stomach to feel each breath
  12. ask us what needs to change in our environment in order for us to feel safe
  13. help us change it
  14. usually, just knowing that we have someone on our side is enough to calm us down.

Luckily I haven't had a panic attack in years. But this whole thing is pretty accurate.